How to Commune with Spirits While in a Graveyard

Headstone in Julian Pioneer Cemetery

In the death work community, most people emphasize gathering graveyard dirt and bones. Yes, these tools are significant: they connect us with the deceased when we're outside of a cemetery. But in my practice, I rarely collect graveyard dirt when I visit the dead's resting place. Instead, I practice other forms of devotion, spirit communication, and magic.

I don't recommend packing up grave dirt during your first trip to the cemetery for a couple of reasons:

1. you don't know the cemetery yet;
2. you need to be absolutely sure that you want to work with a certain spirit, because once you collect the dirt, you're responsible for dealing with that spirit afterward.

On my tumblr, I've received a lot of questions about how to contact the dead in a cemetery without using a divination vessel. Like any method of spirit work, this connection with the deceased develops through practice. The best way that I can answer this question is to respond with what I, personally, do in graveyards. Every death witch practices differently. Hence, this post is just here to give you ideas about how to advance your death witchcraft.

When I enter a new cemetery, here's what I'll do.

• I explore. I can already hear the chorus of "duh" echoing from across the computer screen, but allow to explain what I'm looking for. Most cemeteries have sections that may or may not be clearly labeled. Older headstones tend to huddle together; babies and young children often get buried in one area. Depending on your path, you may want to focus on one specific section.
• I am silent. I listen. If you're familiar with energy work, this is the time where you want to focus on your own energy and senses. Sometimes, a particular soul or plot will jump out at you, or even call you towards it. To catch these signals, you must concentrate. This is not the time to chat or take pictures (although I understand how tempting picture-taking is).
• I may meditate within the cemetery. If you have a hard time connecting to the graveyard's energy, you'll want to practice a meditation technique. I usually do this under a tree, because these spirits understand their graveyard well, and may inform me on where to go. In my experience, the best technique is to enter a meditative state, and connect your energy to the earth. Once you have a feel for the earth, sense the wind. Both elements are strongly tied to ghosts and will link you to the graveyard.
• I donate offerings and tidy the area. Because we can't take every grave's dirt home, we need to communicate with the dead in other ways. This is a great way to communication with the deceased. For offerings, I usually give coins, small candles, and herbs. But you can also offer flowers and stones as well. Personally, I like granting offerings to effaced or destroyed grave sites: the Forgotten Dead. I also throw away trash and brush off dusty or mud-covered headstones (WITHOUT moving any offerings already present). The deceased usually appreciate the sacrifice and inform me about their lives.
• I may sit with one grave for a long time. Once you explore the cemetery exhaustively, you'll likely locate a grave or two that peaks your interest. I usually remain by these graves for the bulk of my cemetery time--listening, cleaning, gifting, honoring. 
• Even if I don't bring home graveyard dirt, I may perform magic for the spirit once I get home. Depending on my interaction, I may give the spirit further offerings, or perform more magic to help the soul heal or move on. Later on, I'll return the cemetery to confirm whether my spell worked.

While we're talking about cemetery trips, here are some etiquette/safety tips to keep in mind:

• DO NOT sit on top of headstones. It's rude and unsafe.
• If you see a fallen headstone, DO NOT try to upright it yourself. These stones are incredibly heavy and require several people to repair. Instead, contact the cemetery's staff members.
• DO NOT throw away offerings that are already on graves, including dead flowers. Leave that to the cemetery caretakers. However, you may upright a flower pot if it has fallen over.
• If a staff member asks you to move or leave, do as they say.
• DO NOT burn candles or incense inside the cemetery. It may start a fire.
• DO NOT interrupt other peoples' mourning time.

I hope this post inspires you to view cemetery visits as more than a way to gather tools. These visits allow us to communicate with the dead, advance our abilities, and build a reliable reputation with the spirits. I wish you best of luck in your path.

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